I know how men's minds work, so l'll cover some possible scenarios and let you decide for yourself which one might ring true for you.
SITUATION #1: He's Immature Or Stroking His Ego
Some men are too immature to be honest and direct.
Maybe he's involved with someone already but wasn't mature enough to just be honest about that.
Sometimes men are just giving themselves ego strokes by flirting with you. They get your number to feel even better about themselves or to have it "just in case" they get some random urge to call you in the future.
Or, they weren't really serious about calling you, but got your number as a kind of "trophy" to show off to their other immature friends.
You wouldn't want to date this kind of guy anyway.
SITUATION #2 : He's a Player, You're Not
They were just looking for a hook-up, and you weren't "fling" material (which is a good thing, unless that's all you're looking for).
Maybe he was Physically Attracted to you, but once he started talking to you he realized that you're not the one-night-stand kind of girl.
But in spite of this, he takes your number, in case he gets the crazy idea in his head that he'd actually want a great girl for a real relationship... someday.
And guess what?
He doesn't come to that realization for a very very long time - so he doesn't call.
Situation #3: He Thought He Was Being Polite
They thought they were being "polite" by getting your number, even though they never actually wanted to go out with you.
Have you ever given your number to a man who asked for it, all the while dreading the minute he calls? Because you just weren't that "into" him?
Exactly...
And I know it sucks to think about this, but have you ever thought that the tables could be turned?
See... if men enjoy their conversations with you but aren't that interested in anything more, they sometimes feel a polite "obligation" to get your number.
They feel it's a way to end the conversation on a positive note.
Sometimes men, just like some women, have a hard time being up-front and assertive about how
they really feel.
they really feel.
SITUATION #4: He Sensed Something Was "Off"
He was interested in you at first, but after a little while he started to sense that something was "off"... maybe even AFTER he got your number.
Yes, it may have been something subtle you said, or a demeanor you had that gave off a vibe of fear or insecurity, especially if you made snide or needy-sounding comments about waiting for his call.
That kind of vibe makes a man think you're clingy, even if that wasn't what you THOUGHT you were communicating.
SITUATION #5: He Lost Your Number
He lost or misplaced your number, or forgot to call after he met you, and then he never got around to it.
Yes, this can actually happen. Especially with a man who's busy and already has a full and fulfilling life.
Ok, so now that you've heard the 5 reasons why a man doesn't call, let me ask you...
What do all these reasons have in common?
First off, most of the reasons have nothing to do with anything you're doing or saying. It's YOUR CHOICE to give negative meaning to why the men didn't call you.
In other words, if you sit around criticizing yourself or thinking negative things because a guy didn't pick up the phone and call you, you're setting youself up for even MORE negativity in the future.
Which may lead to Situation #4 happening the NEXT time you meet a great guy. You will give off
that "vibe" that you don't believe him when he says he'll call, or that you are attaching way too much meaning to the casual conversation you're having.
that "vibe" that you don't believe him when he says he'll call, or that you are attaching way too much meaning to the casual conversation you're having.
Both attitudes that are sure to send an unpleasant message that will turn him off.
The other thing most of these scenarios have in common is that the men just aren't feeling that gut-level of ATTRACTION.
But... there's a huge difference between KNOWING what these things are and actually DOING them.
When it comes to actually doing these things in a fun, consistent, and exciting way, many women fall short.
They figure - why bother?
Isn't it better to just be yourself?
Maybe.
But what if the "real you" is hidden behind all your fears and insecurities? Meaning, the attitude you're projecting is not fun and exciting for a man who doesn't know you very well yet to be around... and instead you seem a little "heavy" and down.
Here's a radical thought-
What if you could make just a tiny shift in the way you communicate with men you meet that made a huge difference in how men responded to you?
If a few small things really could make the difference, even if they didn't feel like "you" the first time around- would you be willing to go just a little outside your "comfort zone" of what you've always done and what makes sense to you?
And what if by doing that, you just also happened to break one or more of the negative patterns you've had going on in your life... such as men who seem great turning out to be real jerks who disappoint you?
The amazing thing is, having things happen and unfold in a new and better way in your life is just a few moments away.
But only if you're willing to step out of your everyday life, thinking and routine... and just give something new a chance to work.
If you feel like hearing or learning about something new to say or do around a man so that you get a different RESULT just isn't "you", then guess what?
You're right- it isn't you. And that's a GOOD THING if things haven't been going your way in a little while.
It's time to mix things up a bit.
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